Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids - Parenting to Impress

In today’s world, our kiddos face so many challenges that bring big emotions to the surface. As parents and teachers, we want to help them navigate these tough moments. Raising emotionally resilient kids means teaching them to work through their feelings and find growth on the other side. It’s not something that happens overnight, but I’m here to offer some encouragement and share a few tips I’ve found helpful along the way.

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What is Emotional Resilience?

Think of emotional resilience like a spring. When a child faces a setback, you want them to bounce back instead of getting stuck in negativity, anxiety, or depression. Emotional resilience trains them to experience the hard feelings, understand them, and move forward with growth. And the best part? They don’t have to do it alone! With guidance, they can learn to see God’s omniscient presence, helping them grow through every emotion.

Why is Emotional Resilience Important?

As much as we wish we could shield our kids from challenges, we know life isn’t always easy. In John 16:33, Jesus reminds us, “In this world you will have trouble.” Our children will encounter difficult people and situations, but emotional resilience equips them with the tools to navigate those moments with grace. Teaching them that God is faithful, even in their hardest times, is a gift. The verse continues with a beautiful promise: “But take heart! I have overcome the world.” With this assurance, they can move through fear or sadness while experiencing God’s goodness in every step.

Modeling Emotional Resilience for Your Kids

Like I’ve shared so often, one of the best ways to teach our kids emotional resilience is by modeling it ourselves! While grace abounds, our kids need to see us handle our own emotions in healthy ways. It’s okay to say, “Mommy is feeling really upset right now. I’m going to take a moment to pray and calm down.” When they see us manage our feelings and turn to God, it teaches them to do the same.

Teaching Kids to Identify Their Emotions

Naming emotions is such a powerful tool. When we help our kids identify what they’re feeling, it opens the door for them to learn how to manage those emotions. If your little one is upset that their sibling knocked over their tower, you might say, “I see you’re feeling angry right now. What do you think we can do about it?” This gives them the chance to recognize their feelings and work toward a solution.

Using Books to Teach Emotional Awareness

Quality books are one of the best ways to teach big concepts like emotions. There are so many wonderful children’s books out there that help little ones understand what they’re feeling in a way that makes sense to them. Adding these books to your daily routine can help a child make connections between the stories and their own feelings. Plus, it’s a great way to snuggle up and connect with your child! And as with so many other subjects, I’ve created a list of quality books on emotions, making it easy for you to order or grab from the library.

God designed us to have amazing emotions, but He never intended for us to be ruled by them. --Heidi Franz

Practical Ways to Teach Emotional Management

When we teach our children to manage their emotions, we’re building emotional resilience. This often involves checking in on key areas like sleep, nutrition, screen time, time in the Word, and overall attitude. Research consistently shows a connection between higher screen time and increased anxiety, depression, and loneliness. I regularly encourage my children to list 10 things they’re thankful for when they need an attitude adjustment—there’s a reason the Bible is filled with reminders to be thankful! And there are plenty of other strategies as well. Be sure to listen to this podcast episode where Melanie and I share even more tips.

Raising emotionally resilient kids takes time and intentional effort, but it’s so worth it. With God’s help, we can guide our children to manage their emotions and find peace even in life’s hardest moments. Every little step counts—just remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and you are planting seeds that will grow over time. Keep pressing forward!